Wow, Playboy and Penthouse are sure in the rear view mirror of today's porn experience for children and teens. I recently evaluated a young man (entering 10th grade) who has been hooked of foot fetish porn and Japanese anime porn for 5 years. The anime porn he prefers involves animated aliens with tentacles having sex with teen girls dressed in "school girl" garb (plaid dress, knee socks, etc.). I really cannot imagine how this young man is going to learn about 3d/healthy sex because he is so engaged in finding new porn that will produce greater levels of sexual excitement.
Due to fetish porn and tentacle porn (and incest porn, bestiality, etc.) it is critical for parents to talk to their children and teens about what they are watching. An open dialogue - in addition to monitoring -- is the key to helping the "cyber generation" make healthy choices online. Without an open and honest discussion children and teens will hide their porn preferences and view adults as the porn police. Don't get me wrong -- many children and teens (and adults) need to have the plug pulled -- but there is a much better chance of preventing "tentacle porn" from entering the life of a child if parents create an open "porn communication" channel early -- by third grade for sure.
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Sunday, August 19, 2012
"The Antidote for an Overly-Teched Brain"
Excellent article by Thomas Carson Mark
The Cassandras among us have warned for some time that Internet addiction -- obsessive texting, Tweeting, posting, surfing, along with a compulsion to be always connected -- threatens to make us dumber, more anxious, and more depressed. Such warnings are becoming harder to dismiss; a recent article by Newsweek's Tony Dokoupil presents evidence that Internet addiction may lead to more extreme forms of mental illness. And according to The Observer, social media titans will gather in February for the Wisdom 2.0 Conference, whose theme will be finding balance in the Digital Age -- a sign that even Silicon Valley is worried about our online habits.
An obvious proposal for avoiding Internet-induced anxiety, depression, or psychosis, would be to turn off cell phones, limit time online, and engage in offline activities like reading books or gardening. I have nothing against those pursuits -- I engage in both of them frequently -- but I want to suggest another sort of remedy for Internet addiction that to my knowledge has not been explored by others. I claim that the performing arts have something special to offer in this context.
Now, I'm not recommending that people take up the violin or the piano or start dance classes as an alternative to spending time online. I am recommending something less obvious, something which may perhaps seem less plausible. I urge people to become patrons of the performing arts: Attend live performances, music, dance, and theatre.
But how, you may ask, does that address Internet addiction? What is special about live performance?
Consider what happens when I attend a concert. I go to the symphony and I hear, let's say, a work by Beethoven. But I do not merely hear Beethoven's music, which I could do at home on my CD player, I hear it in a special way. Beethoven composed 200 years ago, and at the concert it is re-created, one note at a time, by real people playing real instruments, and their activity occurs now. In my new book, Motion, Emotion, and Love: The Nature of Artistic Performance, I argue that the musicians' activity of making the sounds is an activity of artistic creation. Beethoven composed the symphony but this example of it, this realization, is also an artwork, created by the musicians, moment to moment, in my presence. An exactly similar analysis applies at a dance or theatre performance.
At a performance, we are present at an ongoing exercise of artistic creation. But we are not just onlookers or listeners: We are participants. We know -- and it is the performer's job to make us feel -- that this music, these movements by the dancer, these speeches by the actors, are for us. This is part of what "stage presence" or "projecting the character" entails. The performer communicates, the audience feels engaged, caught up in what is happening, and if this element is lacking, if the audience does not feel included, the performance is in this respect a failure.
The performer communicates with the audience, but the audience also communicates with the performer. Performers are vividly aware of the differences from one audience to another; some audiences are "hard," some "easy." It is the responsibility of the audience to communicate, in subtle ways, its involvement with the proceedings. Doing so is essential because the message communicated by the audience influences the performance. We should think of the situation as an interaction of performers and audience, and the quality of what the audience sees or hears depends partly on its contribution to the occasion.
Members of the audience do not communicate only with the performers, they also communicate with one another. We all know the difference between being in an audience where everyone is caught up in the performance and being in an audience that is indifferent or even hostile. Part of the thrill of a live performance comes from knowing that it is a shared experience; we share with the performers, they with us, and we with the others in the audience. (Which is why obvious demonstrations of indifference or inattention, shown for example by texting during the performance, are so intolerably rude. They destroy the sense of sharing.)
At a performance we encounter an artwork -- a symphony, for instance -- but we encounter it as emerging from an activity of artistic making in the present moment. In addition to experiencing the symphony as a work by Beethoven, we experience this realization of it as an additional artwork, created by the performers aided by the attentive involvement of the audience, and we experience all this in a context of sharing.
Live performance offers much more, therefore, than just a period of turning off our cell phones. The kind of integrated experience that I claim performance offers can stand as an antithesis to the fragmented, frantic, never-ending run-around that some people subject themselves to by spending too much time online. Performance offers more than a respite, it offers an experience of an entirely different order. In addition, the sort of attentive interaction that I claim should occur between performer and audience, and of audience members with each other, stands in stark contrast to the interaction of a person with his iPhone. Nothing like it is available -- or possible -- online.
Mark is the author of Motion, Emotion, and Love: The Nature of Artistic Performance (GIA Publications, September 2012).
For more by Thomas Carson Mark, click here.
For more on unplugging and recharging, click here.
The Cassandras among us have warned for some time that Internet addiction -- obsessive texting, Tweeting, posting, surfing, along with a compulsion to be always connected -- threatens to make us dumber, more anxious, and more depressed. Such warnings are becoming harder to dismiss; a recent article by Newsweek's Tony Dokoupil presents evidence that Internet addiction may lead to more extreme forms of mental illness. And according to The Observer, social media titans will gather in February for the Wisdom 2.0 Conference, whose theme will be finding balance in the Digital Age -- a sign that even Silicon Valley is worried about our online habits.
An obvious proposal for avoiding Internet-induced anxiety, depression, or psychosis, would be to turn off cell phones, limit time online, and engage in offline activities like reading books or gardening. I have nothing against those pursuits -- I engage in both of them frequently -- but I want to suggest another sort of remedy for Internet addiction that to my knowledge has not been explored by others. I claim that the performing arts have something special to offer in this context.
Now, I'm not recommending that people take up the violin or the piano or start dance classes as an alternative to spending time online. I am recommending something less obvious, something which may perhaps seem less plausible. I urge people to become patrons of the performing arts: Attend live performances, music, dance, and theatre.
But how, you may ask, does that address Internet addiction? What is special about live performance?
Consider what happens when I attend a concert. I go to the symphony and I hear, let's say, a work by Beethoven. But I do not merely hear Beethoven's music, which I could do at home on my CD player, I hear it in a special way. Beethoven composed 200 years ago, and at the concert it is re-created, one note at a time, by real people playing real instruments, and their activity occurs now. In my new book, Motion, Emotion, and Love: The Nature of Artistic Performance, I argue that the musicians' activity of making the sounds is an activity of artistic creation. Beethoven composed the symphony but this example of it, this realization, is also an artwork, created by the musicians, moment to moment, in my presence. An exactly similar analysis applies at a dance or theatre performance.
At a performance, we are present at an ongoing exercise of artistic creation. But we are not just onlookers or listeners: We are participants. We know -- and it is the performer's job to make us feel -- that this music, these movements by the dancer, these speeches by the actors, are for us. This is part of what "stage presence" or "projecting the character" entails. The performer communicates, the audience feels engaged, caught up in what is happening, and if this element is lacking, if the audience does not feel included, the performance is in this respect a failure.
The performer communicates with the audience, but the audience also communicates with the performer. Performers are vividly aware of the differences from one audience to another; some audiences are "hard," some "easy." It is the responsibility of the audience to communicate, in subtle ways, its involvement with the proceedings. Doing so is essential because the message communicated by the audience influences the performance. We should think of the situation as an interaction of performers and audience, and the quality of what the audience sees or hears depends partly on its contribution to the occasion.
Members of the audience do not communicate only with the performers, they also communicate with one another. We all know the difference between being in an audience where everyone is caught up in the performance and being in an audience that is indifferent or even hostile. Part of the thrill of a live performance comes from knowing that it is a shared experience; we share with the performers, they with us, and we with the others in the audience. (Which is why obvious demonstrations of indifference or inattention, shown for example by texting during the performance, are so intolerably rude. They destroy the sense of sharing.)
At a performance we encounter an artwork -- a symphony, for instance -- but we encounter it as emerging from an activity of artistic making in the present moment. In addition to experiencing the symphony as a work by Beethoven, we experience this realization of it as an additional artwork, created by the performers aided by the attentive involvement of the audience, and we experience all this in a context of sharing.
Live performance offers much more, therefore, than just a period of turning off our cell phones. The kind of integrated experience that I claim performance offers can stand as an antithesis to the fragmented, frantic, never-ending run-around that some people subject themselves to by spending too much time online. Performance offers more than a respite, it offers an experience of an entirely different order. In addition, the sort of attentive interaction that I claim should occur between performer and audience, and of audience members with each other, stands in stark contrast to the interaction of a person with his iPhone. Nothing like it is available -- or possible -- online.
Mark is the author of Motion, Emotion, and Love: The Nature of Artistic Performance (GIA Publications, September 2012).
For more by Thomas Carson Mark, click here.
For more on unplugging and recharging, click here.
Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Tools to block porn
MetaCert Builds Tools to Block Porn on Networks and Devices
By Larry MagidThere are lots of companies that build Internet filtering products and while most do a pretty good job of keeping kids away from porn, none are perfect. MetaCert,which claims to have labelled nearly 630 million pornographic web pages, isn’t perfect either but its CEO Paul Walsh claims that it has less than a 0.3% error rate.
The company has software, called “crawlers,” that scour the web constantly looking for porn. If it finds a site that meets its criteria, it adds it to the list but if anyone suspects that it’s not really a porn site, they can submit it for review and have it removed if it got there by accident.
The company has a number of products including plug-ins for Firefox and Chrome and its own DNS (domain name service) server that can block porn on all devices connected to your home network. It’s also about to release its own porn-free browser for the iPad called Olly. Parents can make Olly available to their kids but restrict access to Apple’s unfiltered Safari browser for themselves only.
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